Senior Dating Sites--Warnings!

Seniors tend to be curious and also naturally trusting. Our very natures are sometimes our worst enemies. After spending two plus years on a couple of senior dating sites, I've come to know most of the current problems you might run into on the net.

Predators exist on virtually all types of sites, but we need to be aware of those that frequent dating sites. The worst are the pedophiles. While they tend to lurk among the juvenile sites, they can be drawn to senior ladies holding and being with their grandchildren. Photos are a definite plus on dating sites, but please leave out the children. Pedophiles never announce their intentions in advance and are consistently untruthful. Red Flag warning.

Women from all over the world are shopping for men to bring them to the states, marry them and then provide for not only them, but their entire family back home! While some of these ladies are no doubt legitimate, beware those who begin asking for favors, usually money, early in the correspondence game. They start out small in their requests for help with a little problem, but escalate into larger family problems in short time. They will string you along as long as they can get away with it or until they empty your wallet. Yellow Flag warning.

The most difficult to determine are the women whose sole intention is to meet a man, marry him and then, after a couple of years, divorce him and take as much as they can in the process. They are clever, devious, seductive in all ways and dangerous. They are also rather rare, but exercise caution. Yellow Flag.

Senior women will be contacted by much younger men. Some are sincere and want to appreciate the maturity an older woman affords. Others are a pest. The major problem here is the enormous difference between mutual life experiences and personal growth. This is a judgment call. Most sites will allow you to block out unwanted contacts if you wish and also allow you to determine an age range of males that suits you. Yellow Flag.

And last, a personal experience. I had been contacted by a lady in a town about 35 miles from me and I sent her a friendly reply. She then mentioned on her next letter that she was recently let go from her job due to the economy and things were tight. Yellow Flag.

I replied, told her of my regrets to hear of her circumstances, and then would she mind sending along a photo since her site did not include one.
She soon replied and along with a photo (of her breasts), she asked if I had ever heard of "pay for play?" Red Flag!!!

The lady was either in the business or a cop was trolling for johns. End of conversations, end of story. Be careful.

The above was a partially revised segment of my ebook: Single Seniors: Dating and Sex. The article has appeared in many senior publications. It's FREE!
http://www.seniordatingandsex.com/Senior.pdf

How to Beg Off a Future Date

"By the time a man is wise enough to watch his step, he's too old to go anywhere."
Billy Crystal

In the book I (somewhat) dealt with the dilema of dealing with meeting a new person and deciding that the chemistry just wasn't there. The problem was enhanced by the fact that the meeting was enjoyable and both had a good time.

Some women suggested that both should process the "no go" of the moment and call it quits then and there. I lacked the courage to do just that and stated that we should "keep in touch" and leave it at that. Then, just let the correspondence dwindle to nothing.

I met a lady recently online who told me a story. She mentioned dating a guy twice and then received this note: "It was a pleasure meeting you, but I didn't feel that certain sizzle that we would both want in a match."

She claimed to not feel rejected and appreciated his honesty. Sounds good to me.

For more info, order: Senior Dating and Sex, http//seniordatingandsex.com/Senior.pdf

Could This Really be...?

"I was married by a judge. I should have asked for a jury."
Groucho Marx

Reportedly, the following ad ran in the Atlanta Constitution: SINGLE BLACK FEMALE seeks male companionship, ethnicity unimportant. I'm a very good looking girl who LOVES to play. I love long walks in the woods, riding in your pickup truck, hunting, camping and fishing trips, cozy winter nights lying by the fire. Candlelight dinners will have me eating out of your hand. Rub me the right way and watch me respond. I'll be at the front door when you come home from work wearing only what nature gave me. Kiss me and I'm yours. Call (404) 875-6420 and ask for Daisy.

Word has it that 643 men called and found themselves talking to the Atlanta Humane Society about an 8-week old black Labrador retriever! (Courtesy: suddenlysenior.com )

The Damning of The Villages

"What's the use of happiness? It can't buy you money."
Henny Youngman

The Villages, a senior community of 50,000+ near Orlando, FL, has been tagged and ridiculed as a haven of senior sex fiends and rampant with STDs. When I heard that the ratio of women to men there was 7 to 1, my libido went pedal to the metal and purely out of curiosity, I checked it out.
By way of Google, not a personal visit, alas.

The genesis of the story was a piece on the website of WFTV on May 25th of 2006. The crux of the short article (link below) is that doctors have noted an increase in STDs and that the county was preparing an educational program to address the situation. Not much more.
http://www.wftv.com/news/9275560/detail.html

Three days later, May 28th, the democraticunderground.com included a single post that stated: "STDs Running Rampant at The Villages." This simple three line post (which slams "retired GOP types for screwing around") still tops a Google search for: STDs, The Villages. Thus, "increase" was transformed into "rampant" and the game was on. The blogs selected "rampant" as their descriptive favorite and The Villages was now unfairly tainted.

During all of this hullabaloo (which continues even today), not one piece of data has been published to verify this exaggerated claim.

Now, the reality is that you can't put 50,000 seniors together without fun and games any more than an equally sized group of 30 somethings. Boys will be boys and the girls will be, er, ladies. Coupling and sex will break out all over along with the unintended consequences.

The Villages is almost the size of the student body of Ohio State University. I wonder if the students there have a STD problem? Hmm?

Book Comments

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George Burns


Asking for comments can be a very scary proposition. Yet, without you, my customers, I would still be flogging about the Internet searching for the latest schemes to make me rich. Like most, I spent more than I earned.

So have at it, and help me improve the next revision.

Welcome Intro

"What would men be without women? Scarce, sir...mightly scarce."
Mark Twain

Welcome to my new blog which follows the online publishing of "Seniors: Dating and Sex." The intention here is include customers as well as any senior who wishes to contribute to our little group.

Anything (within reasonably good taste) goes here and information sharing is paramount. Since SD&S is always a work in progress, your ideas may become part of any future revision. Existing customers will never need to re-purchase the book as all future added information will be included here first (become a Follower and not miss out on anything).

Feel free to think of this blog as a continuation of the book. Your personal experiences and comments are welcomed.

Jim Portell